After graduating college, Linda found success working as an extra in Hollywood, achieving the glamorous life she always wanted. But her dreams died when she came down with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, a rare disorder characterized by joint dislocations. Linda started taking fentanyl, a painkiller 100 times stronger than morphine. As her painkiller use escalated, she claimed that different sources were causing her pain, including electricity, energy, colors, and even specific people. Despite Linda's wild claims, her mother clings to the belief that Linda's pain is real and she must do everything to help her, including depleting the family's savings and sending her son to be Linda's caretaker.
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Edited by aetv_dlg, 4 years ago
Linda's motto: "I don't listen, but you should listen to me" :)
I can't be sure what happened, but based on Linda' history, I lean toward the devil I don't know (fregs).
It's certainly against the law for a non-professional to tell a patient to disregard a doctor's instructions about how to use a medication he or she prescribed. It's probably "common knowledge" that surgery for anyone (EDS or not) is dangerous. The problem is that it's not such common knowledge that virtually all prescription meds can be dangerous, especially opiates, even if not grotesquely misused. (Even some non-prescription meds can be dangerous.) Whitney Houston might have died from slight carelessness. Many people drink and use pain meds (or, for example, use pain meds and sleeping meds or, more scary, cold meds with sedating ingredients) - George Clooney has suggested he does. Dr. Drew said something eye-opening, which is that one substance can make a person a bit forgetful and not realize how much he or she is taking of the other. In a way, Linda's episode is misleading, in that that type of prescription misuse probably is far less common than mixing classes of substances. Linda likely doesn't realize how dangerous the other kind is or that many people are fundamentally disorganized or impulsive and can't be trusted to correctly use particularly dangerous drugs. Or that some people might be reckless in how they store meds (e.g., where kids can access for them). Regardless of that, at this point it's crazy that she still acts as though long-term pain meds are low-risk and particularly helpful for EDS. Some EDS-related problems are easier to treat surgically sooner rather than later, making covering them up with pain meds a bad choice.
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
Just an update on my health.
And it's yucky. I know I started that sentence with a conjunction, but right now I'm not the Annoying Grammar Lady. I'm just Mere. And I'm in pain. All the time. So I'm going to start sentences with conjunctions and maybe even stick some fragments in here. Deal, people.
A few months ago, I befriended someone who frequented the same blog as I did. In case you're interested, it's called imbringingbloggingback.com, and it's hysterically funny. The guy who writes it recaps reality shows and is a wonderful writer. Anyway, I met Linda Li in the comments section, and we began talking to each other. Then we befriended each other on Facebook.
If you don't know who Linda is, she was on an episode of the television show Intervention. The show made her look really bad, and I was glad I hadn't seen her episode before I met her because I think it would have colored my opinion of her. At first, we just discussed trivial things, like Grey's Anatomy (we're both huge fans) and ice cream (also, both huge fans), but I began to see her posting about her EDS support group. I had no idea at the time what EDS was. I knew Linda was in pain much of the time because I saw her posts to her group, which was an open group at the time. If a group is open, it means everyone can see the interaction going on within it. She was saying how much her fingers hurt all the time.
At some point, I grew curious and asked her what EDS was. She told me EDS stood for Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, and it was a connective tissue disorder that caused severe pain. It also caused dislocations of joints and subluxations of joints. I'd had tons of subluxations my whole life, but I'm including a definition in case you don't know what it is.
I know the point of that is supposed to be awareness,
However, complainin
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
Pollution doesn't help, I'm sure. Ocean ions? Static? Oh geez. That's the sort of support offered in the Facebook group? Don't project crazy theories onto other people with EDS.
Linda says things like that, and then decides I'm angry for different reasons. I'd like to get along with Linda (and everyone, really), but I don't approve of her ways and believe she needs to change for her own sake.
By the way, 2 pain level? Who with EDS has that little pain? Overmedica
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
My point is that, based on my knowledge of people with EDS and Linda's long history of complaints about finger pain and resistance to taking good care of her health, if she's not having much finger pain now (from computer use), it's probably because she's loading up on pain meds. It seems plausible that she switched to a different pain management specialist because the old one (correctly) didn't believe in giving her more pain meds to support reckless use of her joints. If so, probably the new one doesn't know much about handling people with addictive tendencies (e.g., computer overuse) and therefore is more susceptible to smooth-talking.
"I was misrepresented by Intervention," "Chronic pain excuses bad behavior," "I'm happy," and "I've worked years in mental health (and therefore can't be a mess)" are some of Linda's excuses for not doing serious work on her mental health. The intellectually dishonest attitude ticks me off. Beyond that, it makes her a bad role model to, and a harmful public depiction of, various groups of people, and it ultimately prevents Linda from improving her reputation and building a good life for herself.
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
Do your fellow cast members know you think of them as "druggies"
It's not funny. It's appalling.
I hope A&E has learned from this and isn't letting more attention-
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
Today The Doctors had a segment with a young male patient with keratoconu
That's twice in one week that patients with defective connective
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
no they told me no meds they wanted me to do pt and ot with a therapist who didnt even know what eds is made me use a walker after i told him my shoulders and wrists are bad and then when all 4 dislocated
First of all, I already warned about posting people's full names and I don't know why the moderators
Let's assume that the story is accurate. There are ignorant, rigid, callous medical profession
Something needs to be done about Linda playing pied pier to the EDS community.
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
Last week, in the same hour, I saw two discussions on TV that raise important points relating to this thread. This one will start with something I believe Kyle Richards said, about her depiction on a Real Housewives episode. Basically she said it was an opportunity to learn how to be better as a person. She wasn't happy with how it was filmed and claimed she's better than it made her look, but she took responsibility for not behaving great. That is something we're still waiting for Linda to do.
I think she was at crossroads in late 2010, at a low point and introspecting and therefore maybe more open to change. (Look up her posts from then.) Maybe she could have begun fixing herself and her life in the way nearly everyone still wants. Privately she opened up to me more than she probably has with most people, and I guess I deserve some blame for not knowing how to point her in the right direction and too publicly siding with her on the board then. I didn't realize the extent of her issues.
Now it's clear she has fallen back into old patterns of goofing off, putting on a false front (e.g., "bff") to make her feel better, and keeping the wrong company. It seems hopeless for me personally to have any influence. In fact, it did by last summer, which is why - contrary to a very misleading claim she's made a few times - I consciously chose to push her out of my life, by criticizing her sharply for refusing to make positive changes. I didn't want to be a enabling 'friend' to her, and I didn't want to watch the train wreck up close. I still get mad at occasional posts of hers that remind me that she chose to throw away genuine friendship and live an irresponsible, inauthentic life that probably will become less "happy" over the years. I don't even have confidence that she's in therapy anymore, and if she is, there's no way she's being herself (bad parts included) with the therapist. (Ultimately a therapist would be more important in her 'recovery' than any one caring friend.)
Edit: I know my behavior contradicts what I'm saying, which is that Linda should open up more despite deep-rooted fears of doing that. What I did hurt her, and I'm not proud of it. However, the main goal was to help her, to force discussion of things she's been sweeping under the rug (and was less and less willing to discuss privately). I wanted others to join in, maybe people who know her from other places ("but it seems they don't care"). Anyway, what's done is done, and at least the truth is out there. Except for something I didn't understand until last week...
The second point will come later. It seems to explain some of her behavior in the episode and probably up to this day.
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
That seems accusatory
Many of the replies Linda has posted are actually quotes (and shouldn't be posted, but that's another story). I'm not sure she's prone to lengthy writing. She almost certainly has been overusing the computer for a while, but she's also said that causes her pain. I doubt it often gives her dislocatio
Edited by haroldcarvey, 1 year ago
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