My name is Sharon, my husband and I have been together for almost 12 years (I was 15 when we started dating) and we have been married for 7 years. The night that we graduated high school my mom and I got into an argument so the next day I moved in with my husband and his mother. His mother was a really bad alcholic at the time and was unbarable to live with (thank God she has been sober for a few years now). I don't even remember what had started the fight, but she was screaming at us to get out of her house, calling me a whore and anything else that she could think of. She said she wanted us to leave, but when we were loading all of our stuff into the car she somehow got our keys and tried to throw them into the in ground swimming pool, Daniel was able to get the keys away, but after that she went into the house and got a sheraded knife and was trying to cut a hole in the tires on our car. When I ran toward her to try and make her stop she turned and pulled the knife on me. I have to give it to my husband though because he ended up like tackling her (he would never even touch a woman in a normal situation) and held her down till I could get the little bit of stuff left in the car. She quit dranking about 6 years ago or so, because she kept asking us when she was going to get a grandbaby, finally one day she said something like this to my husband and he told her that right now at this point even if we did have a baby that she would have nothing to do with the baby ubtil she stopped drinking. Within the year she had completely stopped. I was so so proud of her because she quit all by herself, she just weened her self off the vodka to wine coolers and then nothing. We tried and tried to have a baby, but it took us 6 years to have our son. But unfortunatly it still was not all good, not only was my mother in-law taking pills and smoking crack, we were also taking pain pills (not crack though lol ewww), and so was my brother and law and his girlfriend. I don't think that she is smoking crack anymore, but I do know that she still does pills a little bit, but she is doing a lot better than she was and my husband and I have been clean for 1 year and 4 months. My brother in-law and his girlfriend are still pretty bad off, I ended up having to call DHS on them, called it in annomusly and DHS still told them it was me, but I called them because their son was not doing good at all. He was really sick, throwing up, diahrea, and they were doing nothing (I think it was because they would let his bottles get so nasty that he got some kind of food poisioning or something) they would fight in front of him, she would tell my brother in-law that if he didn't give her any drugs that she was taking the baby and leaving (this was when he was trying to get off of them) and when she would pick the baby up he would end up ripping him from her arms. She would end up leaving for a couple of days and then come back, and it would start all over again. But DHS came by to do an investigation and when they didn't answer the door they left and sent them a letter in the mail saying that they needed to do a home check. They sent them the letter on the 19th of December and my in-laws, cleaned the house up packed everything up and moved in with my mother in-law, then finally called DHS back to do the home inspection around the 2nd week of January which gave them plenty of time to get the drugs out of their systems. That and instead of inspecting their house DHS inspected his mom's house. Now they are trying to make my life a living hell. But it's ok, I have God and I am not getting down on their level (even though I have thought about it many times, I=and I could get them back very easily if I wanted to). Sorry this is so long, but they are all crazy lol, but I love my husband and he puts me and our son before anything and anyone. So I don't have to deal with any of them if I don't want to.
When DH and I started dating, she seemed to accept me. THAT did not last.
When I met the family, I was told ______________ men do not produce female children. Luckily my first child was a boy, born by emergency c-section after several hours of crowning. She came to 'help out' one week after the baby was born. Her idea of helping out? "The baby's dirty" .... "There's nothing to eat"... "Are you planning on making dinner, or an I going to starve?". She also told me that "Although I was a Mom, which was very important, my DH still had his 'needs' and that having a baby did not exclude me from preforming my "wifely duties". I really wanted to ask her what she meant by that.
When my baby was 10 months old, she was visiting, and DH and I had a meeting at the church (for the baby's Christening) we were asked not to bring the baby. My son had been under the weather, and I had spoken to the doctor. MY son had the beginnings of a possible ear infection. I wrote down the instructions for her, from the doctor concerning the baby. Very simple. Do not force him to eat. He is not going to starve. Give plenty of fluids. Give motrin rotating with advil. Let him take it easy. I had a doctors appointment for him the following Monday. We had already rescheduled the Christening, and it was too late to do it again. Families were already on their way from out of state.
We went to our meeting, and hurried back. I get back and my child is cover in brownish waxy puss, and smells like puke. MIL had decided that my peditrician was an idiot. She decided to not give the baby medication, and force fed him. My child was screaming his head off in pain. Her concern? "He just won't stop crying!". I called the service and was told to bring the baby in ASAP. And my peditrican knows that I NEVER panic. So I got him changed and into the car seat, and went down stairs to tell DH (and his mom) what was happening. That I was taking the baby to the outpatient services. MIL says, "Do you really think that that is necessary?" ~ Um yeah, I do. Especially since the doctor told me it was, and unlike you or I, he went to medical school. DH decided that he needed to go with us. We left MIL and her BF at the house. Knowing that there was an issue with the baby, BF had decided to go for his walk right as we were leaving. He had his car keys with him, so MIL was left at the house alone for a bit.
After several hours in the OP clinic, we went home exhausted, with the promise to be at the doctor's office FIRST thing on Monday. We found out the DS had lost some of his hearing from having water poured in to his ear. My peditrician had informed me that that was what had happened. When I asked her about it, her answer was, "well they were dirty and you don't seem to be doing anything about it"
She called us later that night from the hotel to tell us that she had checked out the place we were hosting the event. She made comments about how she thinks it 'Looks costly' (seriously not her concern, we were paying) . She never once asked how the baby was doing.
Later that year, I am DX'ed with MS. What does she say? "Well now you'll use THAT as an excuse for your laziness". She also fluxuates between "I'm faking the MS" "I do it for attention" and (some how) "I deserve it"
2 years later, on 9/11/01 I gave birth to a baby girl. Does she congratulate me on a safe birth? No. She asks for a paternity test. Insisting that _________ men do not produce female children, so obviously I had been cheating. MY child was born in Washington DC. MIL (and SIL) insisted that 9/11 NEVER happened, and I created the issue for attention. (Yup. I convinced an ENTIRE nation that such a tragedy happened, just so I could get attention). My dd is now 10. Her aunt (my SIL) has never addressed her. Does not acknowledge her. MIL does not recognize her, unless my son brings attention to it.
A few years ago DH started cheating. He was spending too much time with another woman. One day he was out and MIL called. In the course of the conversation, I told her what was happening. She did not seem surprised. I just wanted her not to be blindsided by the situation. I told her that her son was out with another woman who he had been spending alot of time with. Her answer? "Well, he can have friends. You shouldn't be such a control freak" Yeah. He travels for business, he hasn't seen me or his kids in over 6 days, I can see how important it is to catch up with a opp sex friend who's DH does not approve of the realtionship either. I told her that I did not have an issue with him having friends, I had issue with him putting his friends ahead of his family.
Her next thing was, "Well you know, men cheat. It's just thier nature". NO I don't believe that at all. And if your DH (deceased) had cheated on you, that's really none of my business. But it's not an excuse for my husband to follow.
And the final thing was, "IF you had been a better wife, he wouldn't HAVE to cheat on you" So she feels that she had the right to judge me as a wife?
Well DH continued to cheat. MIL KNEW about it. I'm convinced that she covered for him. And now my marriage is over. And when STBXH comes to my house to get the kids, and she is with him, I always make it a practice to be civil and say hello. She can not even look me in the eyes.
My husband and I have been married for a few months now, but have been together for 6 years. His mom for some reason HATES me! She has trashed talked me and other things in the past, even letting her boyfriend call me a pineapple face, because of my skin defects, and did nothing about it at the time nor after. The one thing that tops it all off is the days after our wedding. She and a friend came down, we adore her friend, and ended up staying with us for, what was scheduled to be 10 days and originally they were supposed to be in a hotel the entire time! She knew we had friends coming down and that they were going to stay with us and that she needed to get a hotel for the weekend. She was kind of behaving the days prior up until the night before the wedding. Only a few fights with us. She ended up yelling at screaming at me for something, I don't even remember what now, and I kept my mouth shut out of respect for my husband. Well the wedding morning was tention with her, I stayed CLEAR of her and told my cousins becareful and to keep that woman away from me. The rest of the wedding went good as I stayed as far away from her as possible. We were sooo sure she was going to object and luckily our minister had predicted that could happen so he told everyone to keep their peace :).
So luckily we had the rest of the night and most of the next day with our friends and away from her. She came back the next day and immediately started a fight! Yelling at us saying I am lazy, etc. Told me I was not allowed to go anywhere until I did laundry! In my own house when there was a set of sheets and a hand towel or two that were dirty! I got mad and so did my husband and we ended up taking off for several hours until we could calm down. She would make a fuss over cooking dinner, even though she wanted to and we offered to help and she refused! Finally a big fight happened when she started screaming at my husband for some unknown reason and I had enough. I yelled back telling them to shut up. She then stepped at me like she was going to hit me, I told her that if she didn't stop it then she could leave. Well I ended up getting pulled out of the house by my sister-in-law and missed most of the yelling. The fight continued out onto the front lawn, and the neighbors started to appear. My sister-in-law ended up going to all the neighbors tellling them whats happening and not to call the cops. My MIL ended up making her friend cry and telling her if she chooses us then they are not friends any more. Her friend knows how she is and what she does to us. 2 1/2 hours later she and her friend leave and get a hotel room. The next morning we go over to his brother's hotel room and she was there. I decided to be the bigger person and appoligize to her, I was careful with my choice of words as I was not in the wrong that I had simply asked her to leave IF she could not behave. She turned it around into I was mean and kicked her out because she was talking to her son. My brother-in-law, sister-in-law and my MIL's friend were all my witnesses on the fight they knew the truth. I told her I saw sorry for how things ended up. She accepted we hugged and I thought it was ok. Well she decided 2 hours later that she wanted to go home and that she was mad at me again. Then a few weeks later she gets into a fight with my hubby and told him he's not her son anymore. So we deleted her off Facebook to separate ourselves from the drama. She wrote my hubby an email telling him that he was a brat who was no good to his mother and how he chose me over her. My MIL is bipolar, manic depressive and has anxiety and refuses to take her meds as she doesn't believe she needs them. Well, my hubby ended up telling her she needs to take her medicine. She didn't like that one, and told him she doesn't have a son and she never wants to talk to him again.
Now we find out that she's running around to her friends and some family, which the family knows how she is and knows to ask either my hubby or his brother for confirmation, and telling them that he just up and refuses to talk to her for some reason and that I control him, etc. I give my hubby freedom and as long as he doesn't lie or cheat on me, we are good. We trust each other completely.
Sorry this was so long, but to get the picture it kinda has to be.
Edited by Sweetie, 1 month ago
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